Jun 7, 2007

Reasonable expectation of privacy.

A while back I was discussing with a friend issues that come up between couples. First off we tackled the idea of significant others hanging out with members of the opposite sex. I told him I had no problems with the Pretty Girl being friends with a guy as I trust her to make good choices. He disagreed stating that he'll never let his girlfriend befriend someone who has a penis arguing that it's a surefire way to trouble.

While we debated the pros and cons of this issue he laid a wrecking ball stating that he would install spyware software on his computer to keep track of his future wife's online activities. After asking him why he pointed out that it was in his best interests to make sure his spouse wasn't cheating on him. Homey has some trust issues.

I pity him for I wonder if he'll truly be happy. Could someone that insecure really find joy in a relationship? Would he spend most of the time worrying that his significant other is calling in sick to work and banging the neighbor at the nearest sleazy hotel?

I won't give up my friendships with my female friends so that alone would never make me ask someone (Scarlett?) to ditch their male buddies. I tried to convince my friend that infidelity didn't worry me, cause I'm a dynamo in the sack and no girl would think of ever straying. He didn't buy that either.

"Do you suspect that your spouse is cheating? Who does YOUR spouse talk to online? Do they email an offline lover? Do they perform cybersex with a webcam and microphone? Does your spouse waste money at casino web sites?" - all-spy.com

8 comments:

Miss Ash said...

Your friend is going to lead a very lonely life i'm afraid.

I can't think of one woman that would put up with that shit. Actually, I would not let it get that far as the 1st time he told me I could not have male friends my ass would be out the door.

Alyssa said...

In a psych course I took once I read about a study that concluded men who accuse their partner of sleeping around are actually doing/thinking about doing that to their partner.

Some sort of reverse torture that God has instilled in us...

whatigotsofar said...

Its not so much a matter of a guy not trusting his girlfriend even though he may have been cheated on in the past. But can you trust your girlfriend's male friends.
As for spying on their internet habits, that's completely different. Once in a situation where finance is involved like a marriage or common-law or something of that sort, you need to know exactly what you sig. other is doing with your money. That is not paranoid or untrusting, that's just common sense.

Andrew said...

You have messed up friends.

Mattbear said...

My relationship improved immeasurably when we stopped being jealous and possessive and quit worrying about the other one cheating. 99% of our major arguments stopped. Trust is necessary.

Scott said...

That is a mess. Hope that is future wife is not tech savy because that is going to come and bite him in the ass in short order.

Big Ben said...

It is hard to be trustworthy some times. If my future wife does cheat lets just hope I don't find out and I don't find out who did it, or your will find Big Ben in Jail

Anonymous said...

Touching on what whatigotsofar said, I have had gf's whom I have trusted, get into situations where they were vulnerable to being taken advantage of, and were. But who knows, maybe they really weren't worthy of my trust and it was just an excuse as to why things happened. So, having that kind of past, I can kinda see where he is coming from. Though meh.....

-Jowie